Getting married, that's something you'd expect to do only once in a lifetime, thus you'd wanna make it memorable and romantic, and perfect ... and all the nice words you can dig out of your vocabulary.
But sometimes that perspective and expectation you and others preset, though unintentionally can be one of the main causes of tension and pressure leading to the big day, which ideally anyone would like to avoid.
Having just been through our own wedding, here's some tips we'd like to share, hoping it helps anyone out there with their big day (note : sometimes the best advise comes from those who have gone through a wedding and wish they've done it differently):
But sometimes that perspective and expectation you and others preset, though unintentionally can be one of the main causes of tension and pressure leading to the big day, which ideally anyone would like to avoid.
Having just been through our own wedding, here's some tips we'd like to share, hoping it helps anyone out there with their big day (note : sometimes the best advise comes from those who have gone through a wedding and wish they've done it differently):
- Chill ; a wedding is still just another event to organize and make happen, and keeping that in mind makes things happen better than expecting and trying to do everything perfect ; embraces flaws and work around them instead of mulling over them till even after the wedding.
- Play ; a wedding is not a test you need to prepare and sit for and meet a passing mark, but it's the union of you and your loved one, so be like lovers, have fun, laugh, go out on dates, make time for each other (not meet up to discuss wedding stuff), go to the movies, dine out, etc.
- Release ; don't try to do everything yourself ... let go and have people you trust handle stuff for you ; good friends will be so happy for you and find it an honor to do their part ... you on the other hand need to give them a free hand and not puppet-control them (remember point 1 and 2).
After all, it's not like it's all over after the marriage ... it's really the first step.
